Monday, May 2, 2016

Value Purity

Philippians 4:8 - Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

The other day I was waiting to get my oil changed. There was a long line of cars waiting and the lobby was overflowing with people, including some moms who had their children with them. Two customers, who were men, began bragging about the number of strippers they had watched the night before at a party hosted at a friend’s house. They want on and on about what a good show it was. I found it disgusting, especially with women and children present. I spoke up and they said “Aw, that is just what men talk about.” My response was, “It sounds more like what middle school boys talk about.” They decided to finish their conversation in the parking lot instead of the lobby.

In the days since, I have continued to ponder the callousness of their comments. Those strippers they had watched with lustful abandonment were all someone's daughters, someone’s granddaughters, someone’s sisters, perhaps even some child’s mother. Would they have made those comments if the girls’ families had been present?

Men need to think about this. Every stripper, every prostitute, every porn model is someone else’s loved one. How would you feel if two men were publicly bragging about your daughter’s breasts while waiting for their car oil to be changed?

While I think female strippers should find a different line of work, they are real people and should not be treated as they are. I cannot imagine any little girl dreams of becoming a stripper when she grows up. That means those women once had other dreams, other plans for their lives, and something happened, I would surmise something really bad, which put them in the position they are in. They need to be rescued, not exploited.

Here is a challenge to all of my adult male friends: stop acting like middle school boys! Real men don’t use women as sex objects. Grow up! Stand up for what is right and pure. If you are at a party and someone brings out strippers, grab your coat, drape it over the lady’s body and call her a cab so she can go home instead of being sexually exploited. Put her in touch with a group that can help her get out of that lifestyle, because trust me, she does NOT enjoy it. Then look all the men in the eye who are at that party and challenge their lustful ways. You might not get invited to the next party, but you will have changed a life. And that is worth more than a party.

Lord, give men the courage to speak up for purity in a culture obsessed with unhealthy sexual feelings. Amen.


Dr. Terry W. Dorsett has served as a missionary, pastor and denominational leader in New England since 1993. He is happily married to his college sweetheart and enjoys spending time with his children and grandchildren. He is the author of numerous books including “The Heavenly Mundane: Daily Devotions from Ordinary Experiences.” You can find his complete list of books at:

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